Does anyone have a hard time saying this word? I mean, of course, I can say it. “Can you hand me that, please. Can you scoot over, please.” It’s not a hard word to say, but why is it so hard to say when I really mean it? Why does saying please make me feel like I’m begging for something? Once upon a time, I would’ve willingly begged for something, but as I get older it just gets harder and harder. I suddenly feel like a weak link when I say please. The little, insecure girl inside of me starts to claw her way to surface and I panic and shove her back below the water.
“Can you help me move this? Will you help me do this?” Such a simple phrase yet so hard to understand. Asking for help for little things is easy, but actually needing it can make a world of a difference. There’s a fear of rejection when you ask for help. What if the person doesn’t help you? What if you sound too needy? What if you don’t know why you need help but you just know that you need it? There never seems to be any answers to the ‘what if’s’ behind this phrase.
Please help me.
Till this day, this will be one of the hardest things I will ever have to say. I still find myself struggling to even get the first word out. It’s easier now, because of technology. Now I don’t have to actually face the person I’m asking, I can just text it, but it doesn’t mean that I have overcome it. It is still a constant struggle and I’m not sure that it will ever be easy.
I’ve finally learned that I am just one person; I can’t do it all on my own. As prideful as I am, I can at least admit that my pride gets me into trouble. Don’t get me wrong, pride is great, pride is good, but pride can also get you into sticky situations. Sometimes, you just have to accept that you struggle with something in order to improve it. I know that in today’s society, asking for help and begging are frowned upon. We are expected to be more independent and excel without any aid. The pressure is real and it gets a little crazy sometimes, but you know what I realized? We will be leading the world eventually and we will be teaching the new generations so why not teach them that it is okay to be vulnerable sometimes.
Please help me. Three simple words that can change your entire course of life, only if you say them.
“Always go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that is going to help you grow. “
– Caroline Myss